I Need A Speach For The Pastor And Wifes Anniversary At Church

After mom's death, daughter struggles with dad's, Susan, i am in the same exact boat. my mom died nov. 22, 2008 and one of her friends that gave remarks at the funeral is now pursuing my dad. they talk on the phone. When family or friends say mean and hurtful things, Was that ‘just a comment’ with no ill will intended? a loving observation? was that useful information? was it meant to enrich my life? what was her motive in.